How many of you have encountered selfish people? C'mon raise your hand! We all have! How many of you have put in time, energy and effort into people and have found that despite all of your best efforts...they have stolen your time, energy and your very best efforts and initiatives. They have taken them away like a stealth thief in the night, and pawned them off to fuel their egos. Whether they were an acquaintance, a friend, a significant other or even a family member. We've all encountered these types of selfish human beings. Moreover, 9 /10 times the person putting all of this energy and effort into showing another being how much they are cared for, loved and appreciated are the ones that get left in the dark every single time not having the slightest of clue where they went wrong. Can I have your ear for a second? YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! You see people as such, have layers of unresolved issues within themselves that despite your best efforts you will only ever penetrate their surface level..if that! So how do you move passed that feeling of feeling crushed after putting so much efforts into it, take a seat girl, I'm going to help you "reclaim your time!"
After you hit the first stage of analyzing and coming to the realization that there is absolutely nothing on your part that you could have done to change or alter the outcome of having dealt with a selfish person, it's time for you to spartan up and reclaim that time you lost by becoming selfish in your own way. When looking at selfishness it ranges from a certain spectrum, from the positive end it's okay to be selfish with who you choose to make time for, you can be selfish with putting your hopes and dreams first and foremost before anything or anyone else, you can be selfish in taking your time to form bonds and relationships with others and you don't have to jump when they're ready to jump, on the negative you don't want to be selfish in the aspect that you're being inconsiderate of other peoples time, energy and their efforts they are putting in to accommodate you! That is the difference in the selfish ones you have encountered vs the being selfish with yourself to serve as a defense mechanism to help you to realize you deserve to be surrounded by better people!
Get your time back by being a healthy kind of selfish. The kind where you are considerate of other people's feelings and their time but you're also remembering to put yourself first...after all isn't that one they were doing the entire time but from the other end of the spectrum? You don't owe anyone a thing! Maybe you've spent so many years of investing in others and you can't even get back what you put in! That's a total rip off and you deserve better than that! But it starts with you and it starts with taking that time to love and invest in yourself! So be bold and selfish..your inner self will thank you and love you for it later!