The Art of Discernment

Be vigilant my dear in the dating arena....best advice given to me since the start of my dating experiences. In today's generation...we seem to be obsessed with microwave love! We want love, romance and the #relationshipgoals instantly. However, you only have to deal with a few tough hiccups in the dating world to see the importance and value of learning to be able to tell who is here to stay and who is here for simply no more than what their season will allow!

The trick to learning the art of discernment, is slowing things down! on a surface level, the more you progress through life, the more you will meet different people that APPEAR to check off all of your boxes. They're smart, they're driven, they're ambitious, they come from a good family and initially say and do all the right things...but if you're moving at warp speed, it's so easy to breeze by some of the tiny red flags that lead to bigger red flags down the line! You miss things like the mysterious girl that was waiting in the wings but was dropping hints all along, you miss things like changes in patterns of communication, time chunks that may go missing and minor little mannerisms, that had you taken your time, you would have caught and then changed the way you interacted with them. In order to be able to separate those that are here to stay from the rest, you have to first slow things down even if it means taking some things off of the table for a while in order for you to make a sound and good call on this person's character.

The most Important thing to remember is that if they walk because you decided to slow it down so that you could be able to place yourself first, girl than them those walking papers. That is simply put, someone who you do not need to shuffle around and make space for! The right person will wait an eternity if they have to...if to them you're special and if they have in mind that they're aren't here for a just a wrinkle in time but here for a lifetime! Remember, you are more than deserving of the best kind of love and romance and you don't have to settle for the top raman version! honey you deserve and can have the filet mignon version of what love has to offer and if you must slow down to be able to master the art of discernment in knowing who they are vs who they say they are...then take you're time and do just that! You're heart will thank you in the long run!

#romance