Seems lately many of my blog posts have been inspired by my Sirius xm the heat station while I'm in commute from my Internship lol. The latest was a session with R&B artist Ne-Yo and the host of the station. Ne-yo was going on and on about how excited he was about his new album called "Good Man" that was dropping TODAY. The theme of the album is none other than his focus on being an all around "good man" for his wife, kids and even so much as taking the time to make a formal apology in a song called "Apology" dedicated to all the women's who hearts he broke along the way to make it to where he is now. He mentioned something in particular that I felt is a common theme with all of us 20 somethings in the dating world and its the battle of the gentleman and his occasional f-boy tendencies. He stated, "It's a systemic anomoly for a f-boy and the gentlemen to be able to co-exist within the one man" meaning you gotta pick a "struggle" so to speak. Either you make it an absolute point to be a gentleman (at all times) and deal with the heartbreaks, wasted invested time or the fact that you may encounter a girl or two who might run game on your heart and despite it you continue to perservere and remain a gentleman and know that there is a woman out there who will appreciate you for you and will be there for you in more ways than you can count on, remain an example of what guy NOT to be, or you could also make it a point to be a total f-boy and run game on as many as you choose, choose to not keep it 100 and leave a trail of broken hearts wherever you roam.
At the end of the day, no matter how much of your experience in dating has taught you that women generally perfer the a-holes or f-boys, in our immature stages or girls who aren't quite on their grown woman just yet are the ones that will hunt after those types of guys and even then it's only temporary; but a woman who is generally about something and has her ish together will almost always 9/10 times perfer the GENTLEMEN in the long run. It is the gentleman who gets longetivity with her, who she will allow to see the most vulnerable side of her truest self, and who she will give her 100% all to. It is the gentleman who is the guy, that with a GROWN WOMAN, will always finish first and never last. Even if the "gentlemen" is someone who doesn't quite have it all figured out in his own individual world, who can't quite figure out where his place in the world is suppose to be or where his purpose lies, but none the less still has a pure heart and soul....may he never succum to the pressures of giving into the f-boy arch nemesis side, may he always remain a gentleman at his core and with all whom he meets, because only a grown up woman will appreciate this beautiful aspect of him. May the gentleman know that he will ALWAYS win in the end.
Need a little more assistance in the gentlman department? Check out this must read by author Enitan Bereola! It's perfect for the guy who needs a little push in the gentlemen direction
